I'm sorry to hear that Ivan.

That really sucks Ivan! I hate to see any marriage break up. I just have so much respect for marriage and what it stands for. This is SO typical of women. I swear sometimes I just want to punch them all in the head! She ought to bow her head in shame! But, I am quite sure in her twisted little mind that she has not only justified it but found a way to make it your fault. Women want a two way relationship on a one way street! Sometimes I have wished a woman would have a penis for just five minutes so I could beat the living Hell out of them!!! But, of course if they had the penis they would all of a sudden start making sense and apologies for the self centered lives they've lead and the Hell they've put you through. It p---es me off to no end!!! But, I can put this really simple so even a pea brained hey the world revolves around me woman can understand. There is man's law and there is woman's law:

Man's Law: "Do the right thing"

Woman's Law: "Do the right thing for me"

Sorry Ivan... that just really rubbed me the wrong way. Well the good news is they all have a vagina and you were looking for a woman when you found that one.

Freeking women!

Dave

You were being nice. I had a little more to say
when she told me. But, that is ok. I am older and
wiser now (at least, I think I am). Already lined
up a date for this Saturday ;)

A date already? Well, alright then. Your hair looks great, don't sweat it.

I've already let you know my feelings. Always has to happen to people I really like too.

For once, why can't someone I dislike say they got a divorce or even better, dead, I mean slightly injured...did I say that out loud...sorry.

"Already lined up a date for this Saturday ;) "

Dave nods with a sly grin

Crack a beer it's Magaro story time! I'll give you some advice that I got from the original Dave Magaro A.K.A my Father.

I was living with this woman for about seven years. One night we had a band field trip. Me and the boys went to Philly to see a Rush in concert. I told my woman I would probably just crash at the drummers place since I would be drinking a lot. After the concert we were hanging out at the drummers and knocking back more Heineken. At that time my woman and I were having problems. I thought maybe I should just head home so she didn't think I picked up some whore. I went home and she was out. I figure she went to the bar with some friends. You have to be out of the bars by 2:30 here. At about 3 a.m. I started worrying something might have happened to her. This was also about the time that I switched from drinking Heineken to Jack Daniels. I'm a little fuzzy on the time line but it might have been 4 a.m. that the realization that this whore was out cheating finally hit me. It might have been 4:30 or 5 when I entered a state of mind I have never known before. It was the one and only time in my life when I was actually scaring myself. If she would have walked through that door I was terrified of what I might do. I understand how men kill cheating women. It's wrong but I understand how it happens. I needed someone to talk to so I called my poor sister and got her out of bed. She answered the phone obviously still half asleep with a groggy "hello". I said "I'm going to kill this bitch". I told her what was going on and she convinced me to go over to her house and crash. At this point I could not have even walked somewhere legally. But, I had to get out of there so I drove to my sisters house. My sister told me to just move in with her until I found a place. The next day I went home about noon. I packed all my stuff. She finally showed up about 5 p.m. She walked in the door and said "Oh Dave I am SO sorry". I really didn't have much to say. I just loaded my stuff in my truck and left.

I was drinking beer with my Dad and venting about the whole thing. I told my Dad I was going to beat the Hell out of this guy. He looked at me and said "Beat the Hell out of him? You should buy him a beer and thank him for taking the b---- off your hands." I said I'm not buy that bleepity bleeping bleeping bleeper a beer!!! I'M KICKING HIS ASS!!!... and you would do the same damn thing! He said "The Hell I would". Now I knew that my Dad had been in my situation. He tells me that he's bought this guy a beer, shook his hand and thanked him. I was confused! This man was tough as nails and kicked my a-- many times! Yet a guy who screws his wife (his second wife not my Mother by the way) this guy he buys a beer and thanks. I thought about all this for a couple of minutes and I looked at my Dad and said Well I'm kicking his ass"! He replied if you go to jail I'm NOT bailing your a-- out I said "You'll bail me out" (confident that he would). He came back with "The Hell I will". I was not to awful happy with that answer and I came back with an irritated You mean to tell me some guy screws my woman MY WOMAN!... I beat the Hell out of him and you won't come bail your oldest boy out of jail"!?!?! His reply "NOPE! F YOU"! That took some of the wind out of my sails. My Dad was the one phone call I would make. Now he's telling me if I pummel this rat bastard he's going to let me sit in jail. I started thinking if this was all worth it. Was he worth it.. was she worth it... I just didn't have any answers. It was over a year later when I just couldn't take it anymore so I called the guy. I can't post exactly what I said to him. I just let him know that I knew where he lived and I wouldn't be coming to his house to hand him his ass. However, I let him know that if our paths did cross that he would not be receiving a very warm greeting from me. It might have been six months later I was driving through town and I saw this guy walking down the sidewalk. I whipped my truck in a bank parking lot and leaped out to FINALLY give this jackass the a-- beating he had coming to him. This guy tucked tail and RAN! And when I say "RAN" I mean he literally RAN away from me! Watching him run like a scared little woman just made me laugh. I thought who would want to live life in fear all the time. After that I felt OK about things. What I've learned since is my Dad had the right answer all along. If you run into the guy you just buy him a beer. I always thought the thanking him part was optional, but Dad said to thank him.

Dave

Great story and even better wisdom. She is now
someone else's worry and eventual head-n-heart ache.
No greater revenge :)

Sorry to hear that Ivan.

Sorry to hear that Ivan. Been there myself, & hope you only feel 1/10th the hurt I did. If you ever need an ear, feel free to message me.

Jeez, it was nearly 13 years ago! Hindsight on my own situation; a very good thing to happen. It's never a good thing to go through, but I think you are better off disconnected from someone who could do that.

PM for ya!

Mo

second time around is always better anyway.

That's my thinking as well :)

that's been my experience!