So I recently joined this cooking site. It's over all a pretty good site, but I'm starting to get annoyed with some of the guys that consider themselves to be the "big dogs" over there.

They jump into threads they have no interest in commenting on, and instead seem to just want to "spank" people who get "uppity", and who don't conform to the way they want things done.

For instance, I just started a new thread after searching the forum for similar threads, and finding out that the last one on a similar topic was over a year old. However, thinking that this topic could be one of those of the "picks vs. fingers" variety, as in done to death, I said so in the beginning of my initial post, but also explained that I had taken the time to search.

Well, this guy jumps in there and takes me to task for not "bumping the original thread." I explained to him that this is not how it is done in the forums I am used to hanging out at, because almost no one wants to jump into a year old thread with hundreds of responses already posted. I also told him I would be happy to adhere to the norm, if this is the way it is done on this site.

He replied with "Bumping up old topics is usually the preferred method on most forums because it keeps the amount of threads about the same topic down, and also because there are often times a lot of good info in old threads and people don't want to post the same things over and over again."

First, what does he care about the amount of threads? He's not a site administrator. Second, in the world of cooking, new stuff comes around all the time, just as in the world of bass playing. Therefore, a thread entitled "Best New Bass for...?" might have different answers today than it would have had a year ago. Same in the world of cooking. Third, who (who has info to post) hasn't posted the same info over and over again? Fourth, what does he know about most forums?

Am I overreacting? Perhaps, but I object to his use of the words "usually" and "most", and in context and in light of his other posts, trust me, he (and others) really seems like an arrogant @%$&$@#$! This guy has lectured me a couple of times before, and I am getting quite tired of it.

Why am I posting this over here? First, because I need to vent, if I am to keep my cool over there.

Second, and most importantly, I hope I have never acted this way toward a fellow member of this site.

If you feel as though I have, please accept my abject apologies. Also, feel free to tell me about it in this thread. I'm a big boy, and I can take it without lashing out in return. Though I have strong convictions, and express them, my main concern is to help everyone to be the best bass player they can be.

For those of you who may be out there, and are now snickering and saying "It's about time he got his comeuppance", perhaps you're right.

However, regarding being a "big dog" and a site bully, I really don't want to act or be perceived as being this way.


Kelly